First Time on a Dating App — End of Week One

One minor disaster, one major disaster and a whole shift in perspective…

Ohhh my, this really is a new language! That’s what I’m holding onto at the end of my first week. All languages take time to master though often you have to want to master them. This, I’m not so sure about. This is not the quality of insight that Bonnie Barton has generously detailed in her dating experiences https://bonniebarton.medium.com/

For those of you that have read my previous piece https://medium.com/@rightfuture/writing-the-perfect-dating-app-bio-for-someone-thats-never-been-on-one-257e31a3d058 you’ll know that I wasn’t that keen on Dating Apps being right for me and how I ‘work’. I like personal, one on one, direct recognition of seeing a human, real person.

I have a posse of three women that I’ve known for 30 years. We all worked together at one stage and they’ve been great friends even as I slipped away from them during my marriage. Having been single for a while now, and frankly, not expecting any reason to emerge for that to change, they’ve been ‘at me’ for well over a year to get on a dating app. I’ve explained to them that I’m in a developing friendship that could be heading somewhere more involved — they haven’t met her so don’t believe me. That’s a timing issue more than anything else and the relationship is moving slowly because, well, I’m more cautious about what I want now than I was when I got married.

The Intervention

Last Saturday the posse ran an intervention of sorts. They warned me what was going to happen, told me to bring a laptop and my phone, and that they were going to get me in front of a few more faces. They were on a mission.

So I acquiesced and turned up at the restaurant for lunch. They’d already selected some of my photos (all recent) and took one more (the one above) whilst I was at the table. The week before lunch, one of the posse had sent me a link of the top 10 Dating Apps. I was very quick to point out that I was not after the top 10 apps, I wanted to know the Top Ten as voted on by Women. A new list was sent through (more on that later).

First dating app selected by the posse was Hinge because that’s apparently the one getting the thumbs up from women both online and in…