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Understanding the Male Friendship Deficit
It’s the difference between social networks and proximity networks
Men are lonely. Many are alone and lonely, many are not alone and lonely. And the ultimate reason comes down to how we (men) have structured our society. Turns out that the model we’ve created to benefit ourselves (and by ‘ourselves’ I mean ‘men’) has a price to pay.
That price as we’re now discovering, is loneliness.
That’s right gents — down at your local the barkeep has called last-drinks and you’re faced with having to settle your tab. And many of us are none too happy with what’s on the bill.
Understanding a Social Network v a Proximity Network.
A recent FB Reel has gone viral enough not because there’s been so many views (plenty!) it’s because there’s been sooo many comments. Mostly by men and yes, not solely by men. In that reel a voice over poses a question from Reddit —
“…men who do you call when you’re at your lowest?”
It’s a great question. And the answer provided (unfortunately by younger men only imo) is ‘no one’. As in ‘wait what, you mean others actually have someone to call? kind of no-one. The comments though are FILLED by men of all ages lamenting their lot. At their lowest men have no one they feel…
